what is in a name
If I am of an idenity and I know you are of the same I use my word to refer to you usually and if not then I refer to you as how you identify your self. I never try and change how you identify yourself. I might explain why I identify the way I do or ask why you identify that way. I might tell someone who isn't of the group how the pc way is to identify, exspecially if they are offensive. I never though say you should identify as x cause it is your idenity not mine.